As for tonnes of downforce, the differences aren't so high. A tonne of downforce is a lot.
The cars were very close last year, and to keep the discussion simple, i guess you can safely assume that in qualifying, on basically the same fuel, if a redbull is braking at basically the same distance as a mclaren and a ferarri and they all have the same tyres then it cannot be unsafe to say the have similar downforce levels (not a tonne difference) . And if the one with higher df and the one with less df seem to have more suspension travel visually then where does that put the car that's in the middle in terms of df that has less travel? I may be wrong but i can guess the one in the middle is sprung stiffer.
As for damping, that's harder to see from on board. In fact to be honest i can't see that.
If we go back to wheel blocking, there are some really good slo mo videos out there.
Hamilton does block them more than often. Though we've been seeing a lot from Button in 2012.
I'm not sure if it's a case where the pirelli performance degrades so much that one lap you feel you know how hard to brake to get the max from the tyres in a certain corner, then the next time around, with a more degraded tyre and maybe a few degrees more or less of track temperature, you try the same pressure on the brakes and you are looking at a different tyre altogether.