It's a nice way to look at it I guess. But the issue sits more about what would have happened if Lando didn't give the position back. If Stella can't trust his driver to follow his instructions when he has a very clear set of rules and a clear idea of the culture and behaviours of Mclaren, then yes, there is a serious issue. That's not to say it can't be rectified, but it's much easier to break something than to fix it. Then there is the division in the team around the behaviour, the impact on the relationship with Oscar who pitted second on the understanding he'd get the place back if there's an undercut. I think the chances that it would not have a negative impact on the trust and relationships in the team are close to zero.
Aside from that, it was another strategy communication/call from Mclaren in a long line of not clever calls and it's totally right I think that it is called out and discussed.
Much as it is nice to pretend it was always going to be rosy, I think that was highly unlikely if he didn't pit. Much as Oscar is a nice lad, I don't think he would have an issue taking the gloves off, and nobody needs these two drivers with their gloves off right now. Or an enhanced competitiveness and point to prove on track causing incidents between drivers who are often close, including at the starts and run down to turn 1. Or one driver refusing to do anything to help the the other driver ad team out because they now only want to protect their own race